Will It Come Down To Desperation For Me?
(Colorado Springs, Colorado, USA)
I like your site and the story and articles. I really appreciate the detailed explanations of the car wash, dog walk, and lawn maintenance businesses.========================================
I'm just not sure I have the physical strength at age 39, nor enough interest to do well at those. But it may come down to desperation.
I still haven't even applied myself at my natural abilities, after working a wage slave job that I've hated for 17 years. I'm also so foggy on what my real interests are... I seem to just jump from one thing to another.
Now I have a wife and 3 kids to take care of and no savings and barely getting by and my hourly job is going to end soon.
What resources or help do you suggest for someone like me? I really feel I need a mentor or an adviser. So I am starting to ask guys at church, but only one of them is an entrepreneur full-time.
----- Arturo's Reply to Mark -----
Thank you for visiting our site, Mark. As it turned out, you arrived to a portion of it whose content targets an audience who is a bit older than half your age. So I can appreciate your feeling in considering the quick-start recommendations that we make to them as mostly unsuitable to your situation as a husband and father.Here's an excellent example of the type of person for whom we encouraged these types of physically challenging quick-money ventures and how effective they can be at advancing their interests and experience.
The basic assumptions that we're making for those wanting to start any of these quick money, cash-based ventures is that they will have the stamina, support and determination to execute aggressively on them, driven by a near desperation to avoid college debt, long-term unemployment or the fear of not having any other way to develop entry level employment skills, plus an innate desire not to put all their career eggs in the one-employer basket from the very start. For someone like you our assumptions are quite different.Your comments give us a good opportunity to share these assumptions and some thoughts about what you may wish to consider doing.
Let's begin with the following assumption. We believe that someone facing unemployment does not
necessarily find himself in a financially unfit situation – financially precarious situation yes, financially unfit maybe not. But this is a question every person confronting the prospects of unemployment must ask himself, "Am I financially unfit to begin a business now that I'm confronting unemployment?" If the answer is yes, then your options are limited unless you're willing to make a radical
change in your lifestyle.When I say radical, I mean RADICAL, as in you need to get down to the root of things and redo just about everything possible to change your future. This starts with a reworking of your expectations about where you should have been by this point in your life. And, as a married man, you can't think alone about this. Your wife has expectations as well. Is she willing to be as radical as you may have to become to change the future? Or, with children around you, are you already living the future and must you then confront today the choices that you made 20 years ago?
This is something only your wife and you can speak to. But let me give you some pointers, if you don't mind, to make the dialogue easier to start.
This is thinking like a business already, Mark.
- Aim for the same objective. You are a team. How do you complement each other? Be the man. Take the lead. But be practical. Listen to her insight about what may be feasible to accomplish together.
- List the resources available to you two.
- Define your priorities in the open.
- Determine what objectives may be achievable with the resources available in the order of priority you two agree to follow together.
Next, you say that you have no savings, no future in your job, no financial wiggle room, no physical strength. Thank you for your inventory of what you cannot count on to move ahead. Let's focus on what you do
have for a moment.Do you have intellectual capital? Do you have social capital? Do you manage your time? What do you know to do well? Who do you know who is willing to get involved collaboratively with you? Are you controlling your available time, scheduling it for productive use in serving someone in need? Focus on what's under your control. This is how you avoid worry. Become so busy with doing what you can that you're left with no time or space in which to worry. But be purposeful.
And here's where you have a plain weakness to overcome immediately. You seem to have no purpose. You cannot lead without a purpose. You say that you've failed to apply yourself to your natural abilities? What are your natural abilities? Are you crystal clear about them? Here. Do yourself a favor and take this free temperament test
and develop a vocabulary about your overall preferences. Then pay $40 and get the career seeker package at the Motivational Appraisal of Personal Potential (MAPP)
and become intimately aware of your strengths. Start building off of them. Overcome your key weakness, which is a lack of clarity and focus.When you're done with all this that I've assigned to you, come back here and I'll help you with your next step. Come prepared, however.